Expectations of Parents.
- Take an active interest in the children’s welfare and honestly communicate with the children and the karbhaaris (middlemen) promptly.
- Be aware that the Karbhaaris are volunteers and allow for time delays in responses from them and the other parties.
- Treat information confidentially and conversation between Karbhaaris are treated in the strictest confidence.
- Discuss with the karbhaari, on the best way to approach the singles on particular matters to ensure they are able to see the situation for what it is;
- How to say ‘no’.
- Not being too caught up in the busy-ness of every day life & deferring this important matter.
- The relative benefits of marrying in the LPS community.
- What is a reasonable time taken in decision making.
- What to look for in a partner.
- Importance of regular and timely communications.
- Commit to only ‘one at a time’.
Expectations of Single Person.
- Demonstrate an understanding of the commitment to being registered.
- Only apply if ready.
- Maintain an open and honest relationship with parents and primary Karbhaari (middleman) contact.
- Maintain an open minded and flexible approach to input from Karbhaaris, parents and other trusted extended family members (this is quite an extensive discussion point).
- Agree with primary Karbhaari the communication method and how to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’.
- Provide the information requested truthfully and if certain optional information is not provided, you must be aware that you me asked to share the data, if requested by a potential suitor before an introduction is made (e.g. photos; veg status etc).
Expectations of Karbhaari (middleman).
- Able to use technology and committed to managing data accurately, treat information confidentially and all conversations between Karbhaaris are treated in the strictest confidence.
- Be honest amongst the Karbhaari group about their perception of the reputation, background and readiness of the parents and singles in question.
- Encourage parents to take a more active role in encouraging their children to be ready and contactable on a timely basis.
- Be available and accessible to parents and singles alike.
- Regularly connect with fellow Karbhaaris and attend all regional Karbhaari events (both online and offline).
- Commit to agree the timeline following an introduction and undertake follow up on a timely basis.
- Maintain an accurate and confidential record of unsuitable partners (e.g. outside preferred age range; relatives etc).
- Ensure there is only ‘one at a time’.